April 17, 2012

Midlife Crisis

Written by Wisdom Hunters

Thoughts from daily Bible reading for today- April 17, 2012

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love”. Proverbs 5:18-19

A midlife crisis means you are most likely discontent. Your may be discontent with your wife, your work, and your car. However, the Bible is very clear about being content with what or who God has blessed you with, especially your spouse. His desire is for you to want what you have, and not obsess over what you don’t have. Remember the bride of your youth, and celebrate her coming out party.

Perhaps you married her because she was cute, cuddly, cared about you, and she loved Christ. Those are compelling characteristics that hopefully have grown over the years. Be joyful in Jesus, and grateful to God that He has given you a woman who walks with Him, and wants to be with you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth, as she keeps you young and yearning for Yahweh.

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” Philippians 4:11

Moreover, be captivated by the love of your wife. Her capacity and willingness to love you will grow, as you consistently and unconditionally love her. What wife will not embrace her husband, who serves her like His Savior Jesus serves? Love and respect creates love and respect, as it is a Christ-like cycle. Be captivated by the love of your wife, knowing she was given to you by God. You chose her, so be pleased with your choice; in His providence He pronounced you “husband and wife”.

Lastly, a wife captivates her husband with her kind character, and attractive looks. You wooed the husband of your youth by your sweet spirit, your delightful smell, and your inviting beauty. Be very intentional to make your love interesting to your man who may easily get bored in the bedroom. Let the distractions of life, and the activities of raising children rank second to your captivating love for each other. The “grass is greener” is the will of God, which means remaining faithful to one another.

“And as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, So your God will rejoice over you.” Isaiah 62:5b

Prayer: How can I love my wife in a way that brings alive her captivating love?

Related Readings: Song of Songs 4:5; Ecclesiastes 9:9; I Corinthians 7:2; Ephesians 5:28

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Comments

  1. Jim Phillips says:

    LOVE this new format. MUCH easier to read. I read the paper copy of Seeking Daily the Heart of God daily. I also have the electronic version on my iPad.

    Is there a way to link your site to our church site?

    Jim Phillips
    Sr Pastor
    North Greenwood Baptist Church
    Greenwood, MS

  2. Rob Marbury says:

    Great reminder. We should ask God to show us how to serve and love our wives, instead of “just praying” for a better relationship. When we put God’s power into our marriages, they will be transformed and renewed.

    (PS– I like the new look of your blog.)

  3. Denise Owens Bryant via Facebook says:

    What a wise word on my anniversary. Thank you for speaking the truth.

  4. Boyd says:

    Happy Anniversary Denise

  5. Boyd says:

    Well said, Rob. Glad to hear you like the new look of the blog.

  6. Boyd says:

    Jim, Thank you and glad you like the new look. We’d like to talk to you more about linking to your church site. Send us your contact info here: https://www.wisdomhunters.com/contact-us/ and we will be in touch.

  7. Boyd says:

    Thank you for the re-post!

  8. Happy Anniversary Denise! We hope you have a blessed day!

  9. Wendy says:

    This is a great devotion. I pray though that it gets my husband’s attention. We are separated at the moment and he not living the way that God would have him to be living right now. I had prayed for God to give him a sign and God brought this devotion to him. Pray with me that his heart will be opened up to receive this message and that God will restore the love in our marriage and home.

  10. I couldn’t have read this at a more appropriate time. God has impeccable timing.

  11. Teresa M. says:

    “The grass is greener-is the will of God”

    This statement in your devotional is very confusing. I read and reread it to make sure I was reading it correctly. It sounds like you are advocating the myth of ‘the grass is greener!’ ‘So Go For It’…..? I would rethink my sentence if I were you…it is misleading, to say the least!

  12. Ayoola says:

    I love the changes, its lovely. Also want to thank God for you, you re always a blessing to me. Thank you for be obedient to God and blessing to mankind. God bless you.

  13. Boyd says:

    Teresa, yes, I need to clarify. A better to state my idea is… The will of God is to stay faithful as husband and wife, this is the true “grass is greener” goal for marriages that stay together.

    Thanks for bringing this to my attention.

    Praying,

    Boyd

  14. Jackie says:

    Hi Wendy,
    I currently am in the same situation but I am not currently married to the father of my children I am trying hard to keep my faith in the Lord to touch the father of my childrens heart and soul and that he brings him to us so we can do things right and put god first ……how do you do it I am struggling and my heart is broken …..

  15. Mary says:

    Wendy and Jackie…I too am waiting for my marriage to be restored..we have been separated almost 3 yrs. He is also running from the Lord. this website is wonderful…please check it out…The Lord lead me here and it has been such a blessing!

    http://rejoiceministries.org/

    ……….Let Go and Let God he is the only one who can restore your marriage..

  16. georgygirl says:

    why stay committed if all he does is call you names and lower your self worth has broken your heart with words and has left you broken in 2 knowing you have no place to go , how do you stand on that one when you no longer love.
    some many women fall victim to these but will never talk b/c of the shame that comes with it.

  17. Cindy says:

    I feel like I have lost any love I had for my husband. I keep praying that God will show me the love again and open my eyes and ears. Right now I feel so alone in my marriage…sad!

  18. Marilyn Correa-Gonzalez says:

    Love your devotions. To all the ladies. I have been married for 19 years, (both from extended families) Trials have been intense. Once I gave my life to Christ 14 years ago, beautiful season for me but major attacks on my husband. He had not surrendered until 2 years later. We went through numerous separations. He kept leaving and coming back. I surrendered him to God. WATCH out. God shook him, sustained me and the kids, tested me with a cancer HE HEALED me, just between GOD and I, restored us and I opened ministry TITUS 2:4-5 WOMEN, Inc. home of BRIDES FOR JESUS. God is amazing. You need to dance with Jesus, if not you are out of rhythm. These are spiritual war zones. You can only fight spirit with spirit. This is not our battle but we need the right weapons. Without them, we will not win. Jesus Christ, prayer, worship are out tools. Surrender it all to HIM and TRUST HIM, OBEY HIM, SERVE HIM, and watch HIM work.. He promises us HE will fight our battles.
    God Bless


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