March 5, 2021

How Can I Forgive and Forget?

Written by Wisdom Hunters

We can choose to forgive the person who has hurt us and not allow the memory to control our lives. In that sense, we can forgive and forget.”

Thoughts from daily Bible reading for today – March 5, 2021

By Guest Writer: Sharon Jaynes

As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:12

We hear the term, forgive and forget, but how can we forget? Dont you wish there was a delete button for our brains?

There was a world of hurt in my family growing up. When I became a Christian, there was a world of forgiveness that needed to take place. It took me some time, but I eventually forgave my dad for all the things he did. However, every time I remembered what was done and how it was done, I felt the hurt all over again. I wondered, “Have I really forgiven him if I cant forget the pain?” The answer is yes.

The key to understanding biblical forgetting” lies in the way God forgets our sins and remembers them no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). Have you ever wondered, how does an omniscient God who knows all things all the time forget” anything or remember” anything? Consider these verses:

In each incident, God remembering someone meant He was about to do something—He was about to act on their behalf. If God remembering means He is about to act, then God forgetting means that He is not going to act. When He forgets our sins, He chooses not to act on them by punishing us. While we cannot forget the wounds of our past, we can choose not to act on them. We can choose to forgive the person who has hurt us and not allow the memory to control our lives. In that sense, we can forgive and forget.

Paul wrote, But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead…” (Philippians 3:13). What did Paul have to forget? He had been unjustly beaten with rods, flogged with whips, pelted with stones, locked in prison, persecuted by fellow Jews, and threatened by Gentiles he was trying to help. He often went without food, without clothes, and without a pillow on which to lay his head (2 Corinthians 11:23–29). This is a lot worse than someone hurting your feelings. And yet, Paul essentially said, I let it go so I can move on to something better.”

When Paul talks about forgetting what is behind,” he does not mean that he somehow wiped the past from his memory. Instead, he made a conscious refusal to let [the past] absorb his attention and impede his progress. He didnt allow the past to paralyze his potential for the future. Instead, he used the past to fuel his faith as he moved toward what lie ahead.

Yes, I remember the wounds from my past, but I can honestly say I no longer act on them. When I remember, I dont feel the resentment, bitterness, or shame of my early years. My past may color my present, but it no longer controls it. Because the memories have so little power over my actions and emotions these days, they come to the surface much less often. This is how I forget” what is behind and recall how God has redeemed my story at the same time. What if your worst chapters could become your greatest victories? Trust the Lord’s love to heal your hurting heart. 

“Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you” (Psalm 143:8, NLT).

Taken from Sharon’s book, When You Don’t Like Your Story: What if Your Worst Chapters Could Become Your Greatest Victories.


Lord, I know I cant wipe the hurt from my memory, but I can wipe the bitterness from my heart. Help me to see my pain as an opportunity to grow better rather than bitter. In Jesus’ name, Amen.


Who do I need to forgive while trusting the Lord to heal my heart in His timing?

Related Reading

Genesis 50:17; Psalm 79:9; Acts 5:31; Ephesians 4:32

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  1. Dale says:

    After just talking to my social worker about hurt from my past, this was a WOW! moment for me. Taking it all in right now makes me sad but gives me a way to deal with this hurt. Thank you, Sharon and wisdom hunters.

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