April 5, 2011

Emotional Unfaithfulness

Written by Wisdom Hunters

Thoughts from daily Bible reading for today- April 5, 2011

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28

There is a constant allure for emotional connection between a woman and a man. A pure motive of care for someone other than your spouse can easily turn into emotional unfaithfulness. An emotional needy woman at work will give signs to seeking men who are unfulfilled at home. It seems exciting and inviting, but in the end—it wrecks homes.

This juvenile junket flies into the face of what Jesus wants and expects. Married couples are meant to fulfill their emotional needs within their marriage experience. This is why it’s imperative to process past and present pain in a healthy manner, so communication and care can flourish, thus feeding each other’s emotional desires. Husbands and wives hunger for emotional wholeness with the one they have become “one flesh” with under God’s purview.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).

Is the bond with your spouse beyond the surface of superficial sex? Remember those long talks you had before you were married? When was the last time you processed your feelings together in a meaningful conversation? It may mean holding hands, looking each other in the eyes and apologizing for hurting his or her heart. Engaged emotions stay engaged.

Husbands if you are emotionally dead, you will kill your marriage. Learn to loosen up and express how you feel. Yes, it is uncomfortable to be vulnerable, but this is a process that God blesses in growing your relationship with your wife. And wives, do not look for emotional support from a man that’s not your husband. Stay focused on Christ’s comfort, seek out professional help to heal your heart—and learn how to approach your husband.

Emotional faithfulness causes a marriage to flourish with fulfilling encounters of loving communication and care. A statement like, “I am sorry you had to experience that pain”, begins to describe your dialogue. You simply listen, to learn and enter into their hurting heart, instead of prescribing solutions and offering pep talks. Emotional fidelity finds a home in relationships that seek to understand, comfort, and offer hope and timely truth.

Most of all—seek together truth found in God’s word. Ignorance of proven principles that build healthy marriages is a recipe for relational disaster. Invite the Holy Spirit to jointly instruct your minds and to knit your humble hearts together in love and kindness. Seek out other married couples to learn from that are good models of emotional faithfulness.

“That their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, and attaining to all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the knowledge of the mystery of God, both of the Father and of Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge” (Colossians 2:2-3).

What relationship do I need to avoid because it is creating emotional unfaithfulness?

Related Readings: Genesis 2:18a; Proverbs 15:1; 29:11; Matthew 7:1; 2 Corinthians 1:3-7

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Comments

  1. MIranda says:

    This came to me at the right time. Thank you. I needed this.

  2. Patrick C says:

    Beautiful. Thank you Boyd.

  3. Robin says:

    I believe God gives us resourses and guidance if we seek them. Everyday I look to find help in how to get through an emotional struggle or just guidance for any typical day. Whenever I read these devotions it never fails I gain and learn from them and am able to apply somewhere in my life. I praise God for people like you that can put things into perspective and help those who seek the knowledge and blessings of Gods word.

  4. lynn says:

    Funny how the Lord knows exactly what we need to hear huh. Thank u so much 🙂


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