August 20, 2009

Not Your Business

Written by Boyd Bailey

Not Your Business… “Like one who seizes a dog by the ears is a passer-by who meddles in a quarrel not his own.” Proverbs 26:17

Be careful where you align your allegiance. If you make another’s argument your own it may come back to bite you. Its one thing to offer advice when asked, and it’s a whole other situation to offer unsolicited suggestions. Indeed, we have enough issues of our own that need attention, Jesus said, “Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34b).

Intervention is especially tempting with family dynamics. Parents of married children can find themselves involved over conflict in their children’s home. However, wisdom prays before it pronounces judgment. How can our children learn to live as adults if we always interject our opinions? We may even be right, but some things need to be learned by your children on their own. For example, education can be a volatile issue that requires research and resources.

One common challenge for parents is what school is best for their child. Public school, private school or home school are choices parents may be processing. Each one has its advantages and disadvantages. Many times financial constraints are at the top of the list of concerns. Some families cannot afford private education, so home school or public school becomes a viable option. Each environment is able to develop a well-rounded student of both character and academics. They need your support for whichever option they choose.

Perhaps as a grandparent you start an education fund. Begin early to save and your investment will give your child and their children additional educational options. Lastly, be available but not intrusive when friends or family are feuding. Remain objective and both parties will see you as a safe solution. “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business…” (1 Thessalonians 4:11a). Can I trust the Lord to work in situations where my advice has not been asked? Will I replace worry with waiting and prayer?

Related Readings: Proverbs 3:30; 17:11-14; Luke 12:14; 2 Timothy 2:14-24

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