April 12, 2019

Tempered Talk

Written by Boyd Bailey

Thoughts from daily Bible reading for today – April 12, 2019

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.  Proverbs 10:19

Tempered talk is evidence of wise conversation. It’s when our words are many that we run the risk of soliciting sin. Increased words increase the probability of improper speech. For example, respectful conversation does not repeat over and over again the same words and phrases in a limited period of time. This inconsiderate cadence frustrates.

Perhaps a look of misunderstanding requires questions for clarification, or definitions for comprehension. Proud conversationalists can highjack a hearer’s understanding with a hoard of words without meaning. If your goal is to communicate, then take the time to listen to the needs of your audience. People who feel cared for and understood have a keener sense of hearing and understanding.

“Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue” (Proverbs 17:28).

Wise people weigh their words before they speak. They allow their minds to catch up with their hearts. Furthermore, in the face of wrong behavior emotions need to sometimes express themselves. Let the other person know if you feel mistreated or misinformed. Concealed anger leads to living a lie (see Proverbs 10:18), but tempered talk is truthful and to the point.

Lastly, you reserve your words out of respect for the other person. If you do all the talking, you are the center of attention. It is condescending conversation, because the other individual does not feel important enough to speak up. You honor others when you speak less, and listen more intently for ways you can love them. Wisdom can be found in the words of each person you meet. Therefore, intentionally talk less and be wise.

The Bible says, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).



Heavenly Father, give me your affection and wisdom to speak concise and clear words with a heart of love, in Jesus’ name, amen.


Who in my life should I listen more to their words and talk less with mine?

Related Reading

Job 2:3; Amos 5:13; Titus 1:10; James 3:2

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